@scotts Hi Scott,
I'm pretty sure that was just added as another possible fix.... without intending to suggest that there was anything wrong with your solution.... indeed I am about to follow your suggestion and add a ceramic cap to a proto board.
Here's another approach again... very creative and neat. This is from the highly recommended macsbug website: https://macsbug.wordpress.com/2018/01/09/expansion-connector-of-m5stack/
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